First, I want to check in and see how you are all doing on
the challenge I presented a couple of weeks ago? Honestly, I’m still praying that God will make
the holding of my tongue a habit and not something I need to focus on
daily! I’ve not done perfectly. In fact, I’ve been presented with a couple of
areas that I’ve really not been doing well in, but I’m still committed to continue…
Now, I think I feel a preachin’ coming on…
Seriously, a question that came up privately the other day was:
“What is your number one marriage tip?”
Now, that can be a tricky question to answer! We all come
from different backgrounds with different examples of marriage. So specific details around daily life issues
can vary from one family to another!
That considered; my number one marriage tip is to look to
the proper source for your fulfillment!
Seems simple, right? Well, it’s
easier said than done! Often times we
women come into marriage after being swept off our feet by our knight in
shining armor, and we have expectations of how that person is going to fulfill
our inner most needs – both physically and emotionally. It’s an expectation that no man could ever
meet…plus, it’s a lot of pressure on them!
So, who is your true Knight in Shining Armor? The One that created you before time
began! The One who knows every hair on
your head! The one who will fulfill your
EVERY need!
“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in
glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19
Now, this Knight in Shining Armor does not take the place of
your husband, but, your husband should never take the place of this
Knight! Put Christ first and the rest
will follow! {I promise to blog more practical ideas on this later!}
My number 1.1 marriage tip?
The “S” word…
No, not what you’re thinking, but it often is thought of as
a “dirty word” – SUBMIT!
When I was in my 20’s I attended a mentorship group called
P.U.S.H! {Pray Until Something Happens} It was made up of a group of 13 young women
being lead by 3 older women. The very
first meeting, one leader said, “Today we are going to talk about submission!” I thought, “Seriously? Submission? I’m out of
here!” But I stayed, listened, and
learned a bit. Then I started putting it
into practice…
I have come to realize that submission has it's benefits! Mainly, when I submit to my husband and his desires for our family, I come to enjoy the comforting protection of being under his care. Basically I'm allowing him to be my knight in shining armor!
15 years later, I’m still practicing submission – here are
some practical ideas:
*Ask your husband his opinion! Not just with a “what do you think” and then do
it your way anyway. Really ask and then
put it into practice. Ask in all areas – some he will have an opinion, some he
will say he is willing to let you decide, some he will need your input in order
to make a decision.
*Be willing to let it fail!
Sometimes we want our husbands to be leaders, but then we don’t actually
let them lead because we don’t want the issue to be a failure in our lives. Sometimes we need to allow our husbands the
freedom to make poor decisions so that they learn and make better decisions in
the future. (Sometimes a husband won’t actually move until the whole ship has
sunk…while this is difficult to live through, trust that God has your best
interest at heart as He is teaching your man some lessons. You will be in a
better place on the other side!)
*Make “Let me check with my husband/your dad!” a daily
mantra in your life! You are speaking aloud what you are putting into
practice! Be prepared for a few eye
rolls or laughs if this is new, but trust me, others will catch on soon enough!
*Finally – don’t fall to temptation! You know what I’m talking about – there is a
decision to be made, and you feel very strongly that you KNOW the right answer,
only this is one of those decisions that could have lasting ramifications! So, you pretty much force the issue – usually
by manipulation (crying, pouting, silent treatment, nagging, etc.) In our house we call this “Eve-ing him into
it.” Since the fall of man, we have had great influence over our men. All I can say is: RESIST!!!
If I know I have a strong opinion about something, I will
usually give Ken a few days to think about something before I give ANY input…sometimes
even saying, “I don’t want to Eve you into it!”
As promised, I do have a word for you single ladies…
Be preparing for the potential of being a wife one day! Pray for your future husband! Practice
submission – this can be towards your dad, Pastor, brother or other authority figure in
your life. When considering a future spouse, consider your willingness to fall
under their authority (do they make wise decisions now?) You won’t be able to
change them in the future!
For those that may be called to lifetime singleness…you are
a special league of women! Do not be
discouraged, but rather embrace this unique calling! Remember you’re an example
to other, usually younger women! Be
intentional to live out your submission to your ultimate head as the Bride of
Christ! You will be richly rewarded!
Thanks for stopping by! Be Refreshed!
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